Justify
We all crave approval. We long to hear that we are accepted and liked by others. When another human being pays attention and truly listens to us, it conveys a sense of importance. Our sense of worth either increases from their interest or is reduced by their rejection. Sometimes we even resort to negative and destructive behavior to elicit a response that will justify our existence. The desire for acceptance factors into almost everything we do or say.
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My kids are always justifying things. When my 12 yo tells me about his exams, he always justifies his poor mark by prefacing it with a comment on how low the class average was. And my 9 yo always starts his sentences with, "Well, . . . ." lol
This is really fascinating. Never thought about it this clearly.
I learned this about my own children. And what's going on between the cat and dog?
Yikes! Those are some menacing looking claws. Maybe you could LOL! this pic up for your Weekend SIllies.
Yes, even if we think we don't need anyone's acceptance, we all do to an extent. Love the pic.
I agree it's great to feel accepted by one and all but sadly that is not always the case.
Yvonne.
I think social media is a bit like that. Did anyone comment? Did anyone like what I said? And if they didn't well we justify why.
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I'm very good at justifying my need for a second cookie (because I skipped lunch...of course) ;)
Justify, a good word. I used to be dreadful for trying to justify myself in one way or another. Now I don't bother.
Great post for J, Diane!
Is that a vampire kitty? What's the justification there? Hum...
We do it even though the only real sense of worth must come from within.
Stina, that's kids for you.
Thank you, Karen.
Shelly, they are both cats - Spunky is attacking Rocko.
Stephen, be good for a caption, wouldn't it?
Jaye, good point.
Southpaw, some days she does suck the life out of me.
Big applause for hitting the nail on the head about so much. When justify nudges accountability out, I cringe.
Very true, Diane. Almost everything we do is an effort to justify ourselves.
Jai
Very true.
Well said.
Heather
I agree with Karen Walker because the desire of acceptance can be destructive if that desire goes too far to the point of being all that matters.
With that said, we all have to justify our need for approval in our professional lives, whether that be at a job or a career. When I was in school, I relished in the fact that I was among my teachers' favorite students and after graduating, even to this day, I feel bad if I don't live up to certain potential that they may have seen in me because it feels like I've let them down otherwise.
Cheers!
~Nicole
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This is so true in everything and about every one. I try to remember it as a teacher and a parent.
That picture reminds me of my two kid's today--oh, the fussin' and fightin'. And yes, they justify it to the skies.
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